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Preț: | 2552 |
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Cod produs: | 305575 |
Autor(i): | Ruxadra Dragolea |
Editura: | Editura Creator |
Anul aparitiei: | 2017 |
Nr. pagini: | 169 pagini |
ISBN: | 978-606-8814-61-2 |
Categorii: | Invatare Limbi Straine, Limba Engleza, Carti |
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Why Do the Bad Ones Make a More Lasting Impression on the Collective Memory?
By Vladimir Couti
What we have done, when, where and how we have done it is what determines who we are in the eyes of others. It also represents the means by which we determine who everyone else is to us, but not who we are to ourselves.
We, more often than not, find it uncannily easier to relive or remember the shame, fears and disappointments of our past times than those of others, or to forget our best moments and accomplishments over someone else’s. In essence, our problem is not about being pessimistic towards ourselves, putting too much accent on other people’s opinions of us, or not being able to forget a difficult experience, it is more a question of not understanding why we do all this and how important it actually is. Simply put, we were not ‘built’ to be care–free, indifferent or forgetful, we are passionate, empathic and mindful of what happens to us and those around us.
We must be pessimistic because if our success or our failure is guaranteed only the latter requires us to anticipate it,
prepare for it, and remember it so that we may become better because of it. We must put some weight on other people’s good or bad opinions of ourselves because when honest they can be a helpful point of view to keep in mind, helping us (re)consider our constant subjective underestimating or overestimating view of ourselves and our capabilities. We cannot and perhaps should not always try to perpetually free ourselves from our hard times like we do so easily with those of others.
When it comes to feelings, psychologists agree that the best way to face emotions such as grief, shame or despair is to experience them and allow them in our thoughts. Expression, as opposed to suppression, has a cathartic effect on our minds, evident in art, such as the Greek tragedies, symbolism or good old blues. Even the stoics of antiquity did not argue, contrary to popular belief, that one must neglect one’s feelings, but stated that it is better to experience them and understand that they are only feelings, ultimately mattering far less than our actions.
All of us have probably heard countless times how unpleasant reality is, or how short life is, and it would seem that our memory is following the same joyless pattern by being a little bit biased towards our less favourite times. However true it may be, ultimately we can see that this is in fact our most powerful tool for leading a fulfilling life.
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